I was prematurely assured when the nurse called the next day. Yep, the doc wanted me to have a needle biopsy with a specific radiologist prior to my scheduled surgery and they would take care of arranging that. Sweet, we're on track I thought. Somehow many phone calls later, I was in charge of this scheduling task with the Radiology department at the hospital. How'd that happen -- when did I let my guard down?
My phone call to the Radiology department was long and complicated with disconnections and menu confusion. When requesting assistance from the receptionist, she behaved as if I was attempting to sneak into the Fair without paying. She was really ticked off when I called back after being disconnected after ten minutes on hold (she was upset?). I ended up with an appointment after my surgery date. I took it just in case.
After this phone call, I just stared at the full page of notes documenting each of many, many phone calls over days and I still didn't have the right things scheduled for this whole maybe cancer and prep for surgery thing. Disappointed isn't the right word for how I felt. And, most of these phone calls were navigated from the phone booth at work. I needed to return to job-related dilemmas.
I conveyed the state of disorder in these appointments and scheduling attempts to the doc's office and received more promises of checking with the doc and getting back to me -- similar to those uttered several times previously. Exhausted and more than angry, I let it sit for a while. I had attempted to be very assertive all along the way. It clearly wasn't working. I decided to dust off the bitch boots and let it rip. I did. In one day my pre-surgery appointments were straightened out for me and I was the recipient of repeated apologies.
This makes me sad. I'm sick, and worried about my future. I don't have extra energy to spare. And, I really don't want to be channeling this kind of energy. It reminds me of babysitting children who are accustomed to parents yelling at them -- it takes a lot to get them to pay attention.
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Yesterday my pal Diane and I walked to the creek where the salmon are spawning, and dying. A wickedly fat raccoon that appeared capable of hauling off small children waddled down to the creek. He bypassed one dead salmon and headed to another one on a rock bar in the middle of the creek. Ignoring the exposed meat, he ripped open the stomach and started raking for the eggs. Quite a sight -- we were lucky to see that.
The level of customer/patient service you've received up till now, was deplorable. Some people are just clueless and have no business being in the service and patient care industry. In the end though, your requests were met because of your insistence on being heard and respected. Let it rip!
ReplyDeleteYou know as I reflect on it now, these events I conveyed were pretty slight compared to some major medical follow-up oops's from the past -- think brain tumor biopsy follow-up and MRI issues. Somehow I want to learn to navigate this highly imperfect system, effectively, without losing my center. Perhaps I have unrealistic expectations :)
ReplyDeleteThe bitch boots! Wow I'm glad I wasn't on the receiving end of those....sorry you had to waste the energy. I'm thinking of our trip to your place last OCT. I enjoyed that very much. Careful with those big coons!
ReplyDeleteI really feel for you, been there---so exhausting and that's their plan. How do they sleep at night? Hang in there, boot when you can and don't beat yourself up over saying "to ell with it." Coons, vicious, good example. Stand back, Seattle is having a rabid raccoon problem right now.
ReplyDeleteWhile the boots may chafe, and pull you from your center, we have to imagine that your effort might actually straighten out a few of the kinks in the system. Consider it a humanitarian butt-kicking. :-)
ReplyDeleteAnonymous - Yeah, I like distance between me and the coons. Was watching this guy from the bridge.
ReplyDeleteDiane - The biggest fatboy urban raccoon I ever saw was when I lived in Seattle (I'm east of the pond now). I'm usually not too fond of them and my pal I was watching him with has been known to chase them with PVC pipe from her campsite! Still was cool to see from a distance.
Jinx - Too funny! So, for the greater good...
These freakin' people in these doctors office have no idea what we are going through and have no idea how lucky they are. They just dont seem to care. It was good though that you busted out the "bitch boots". But yes I know what you are talking about, I often have to fight with my health insurance company about covering some bills and I thats the last thing I have the energy for. Oh, and I was lmfao at the "Raccoon that could drag small children away".
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